I sent my best friend Heather the link to this site and she e-mailed me and said, "I think you need to do some posts on etiquette – maybe even a whole section – people need to know a reception where you ask for your guests to pay is not ok!"
Yes, it's true... I actually know someone who received a wedding invitationthis summer with an RSVP card that asked guests to select the meal... as well as the prices and acceptable forms of payment! We thought this was an obvious NO, but apparently it's not. So lesson one is don't charge people to attend your wedding. Really. It is not appropriate and just makes people uncomfortable. I know weddings are expensive but charging people is not the answer. They want to share in your joy-- not pay for it! You don't have to do dinner. If cost is a very serious issue, I think a punch and cake reception after the ceremony would be a great low cost alternative. You could do cupcakes, cute napkins, and maybe some cute bags with confetti for a fun send off. Get creative-- just don't charge your guests!